Sex Postivity Slut

I try to be sex positive in my writing and coaching, so if that’s not your thing then move along…

 

I embrace the term slut.  I’ve been called a whore.  I guess that’s how some folks see you when you move through the world having sex with who you want to have sex with.

I want to live in a world where the term slut doesn’t make sense as an insult, to quote the UnSlut Project, a wonderful initiative to minimize the effects of slut shaming.

I wasn’t always this free spirited when it came to sex.  I had a bit of a Jekyll and Hyde characterization – working professional on the outside, raunchy girl with a few skeletons in the closet on the inside.  My partner could relate to both sides of me, funnily enough.  The world saw mostly the professional.  The raunchy girl went unnoticed until I was, for lack of a better term, exposed for being a fraud.  The culprit?  An ex-best friend.  She told anyone who would listen that I was a whore and former stripper.  That kind of rocked my world for a bit.  But it did free me to become less of a middle class white chick and more of a sexually individuated woman.  One doesn’t always get those opportunities thrown in their face.  It wasn’t a gradual undressing like in a high class club it was a down and dirty grind in a back room somewhere…

 

“Hey world, I’m a former stripper and present day psychotherapist!”

 I was fortunate to have that experience and someday suspect I will thank her for forcing it upon me.  I don’t think I would have done it myself.  I think I would have continued to write quietly in my journal and not speak up publicly.  I would have stayed in my suburban hole.  I wouldn’t rock the boat on a regular basis.

Now, it’s on.

Let’s move beyond the middle class White American paradigm where we perceive sex as something naughty…  Unless that’s your thing…  Being naughty    Then by all means, go right ahead…
Let’s try to see women in the same light that we see men…  As individuated and capable of choosing their partners and keeping themselves safe.  We are not children, we are grown women, and we are entitled to our bravery.


By: Maya Jordan

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